Dare to Tell It Like It Is

Writing this high school health chapter on drug use is turning out to be a lot harder than I thought. I had this same problem a couple of years ago when I wrote a reproductive health chapter--one in which I was encouraged to write pages and pages about the importance of abstinence, but then they wouldn't let me explain exactly what it was the kids were supposed to be abstaining from. I mean, the editor didn't care that in the previous edition, it wasn't clear exactly how the sperm go into the fallopian tube. The only clear thing was that when that sperm got there, boy was that girl in trouble!

How do you tell kids to be cautious about things that you yourself experimented with at their age? My clients don't want me to write a chapter saying it is okay to try drugs or have sex in a safe, comfortable, risk-free setting. They don't want me to tell the kids how to use good judgment. They want me to empower the kids to say no and abstain from any and all risky and dangerous situations. These are also important skills, but I think they can be applied with caution and still allow for minor drug use and safe teen sexuality. In fact, I feel that your teen years are often the best time to try some of these things in moderation. Now, I don't want my kids to be strung-out junkies or disease ridden perverts before they become legal voters, but I also don't want them to miss out on the fun and the self-defining experiences that they need to become cool and wise adults. Who knows what I'll feel when my own kiddo starts growing up, but for now I'm tortured by the hypocrisy of having to write absolutes about a subject in which there are clearly no absolutes.

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